EDUCATING OUR CHILDREN
"...A mother in Israel" (Judges 5:7).
It seems that Jewish mothers have forgotten the way of life that their
mothers lived. Our grandmothers, certainly, did not sit throughout the
morning in front of the mirror while their daughters were given to the
care of nurses and governesses.
The root and foundation of their lifestyle was "The beginning of wisdom
is the fear of G-d...." The first words that they expressed to their
children was glory and praise of G-d. At the age of three they brought
their children to the "cheder" to learn Torah. They knew and understood
by themselves how to enhance the child's development. They did not need
pedagogical theories in order that "You shall meditate in them day and
night" should become the child's ideal in life through self -
realization.
Whatever was missing in the cheder, the house completed it. The child
saw the behavior of his parents and how they appreciated and respected
those who studied Torah and boys who studied in Yeshivah. From here
they were imbued with the inner desire and will to dedicate themselves
to the study of Torah.
It is not to be wondered that this attitude on the part of the vast
majority of Israel towards the Torah and those that study it created
fertile soil for the flowering of giants and geniuses in Torah -- men
like Rabbi Yonatan Eibschutz, the "Penai Yehoshua," the "Noda
Beyehudah," Rabbi Mordechai Bennett, the Chatam Sofer and many others
like them.
After the fact, we see that only a widespread network of schools
faithful to the Torah and to Judaism can rectify the distortion and
restore the crown to its place.
However, I want to warn the parents about one thing. By sending their
children to charedi schools they do not exempt themselves from the
responsibility of watching over them. The school can only complement
what is missing in the house. It is the responisbility of the parents
to create the proper mixture of school and home. They must watch the
children, check that they are fulfilling the instructions of the
school, make sure that they do not associate with bad friends who are
not religious, etc.
(Kitvei Sarah Shnirer, Pt.1, p.48)